How many questions did you ask today? 5, 10, 20, 50…?
My dream job: Being paid to know which questions to ask.
Dilemma 1: Managers are paid to know all the answers and make business predictable. Asking lots of questions is not what corporations pay managers for and is often seen as a sign of weakness, insecurity and incompetence (or we are embarrassed to ask basic questions).
Asking questions adds value:
- separating facts from fiction – “how do you know that? What specific examples do you have?”
- focus on value adding activities – “what are we gaining by doing this? What happens if we don’t do this?”
- building trust – “how can I help you to make your job easier?”
- developing people – “what do you think? How would you do this?”
- turning around projects – “what do we need to start / stop / continue doing?”
Dilemma 2: Asking questions is a big skills gap but it is neither on the radar of HR nor your boss. If you can fill it you can add tremendous value to the organisation.
So, where can you learn to ask value adding questions?
Schools don’t teach it, universities don’t teach it, hindsight may teach us what the right question would have been but often enough we don’t take the time to reflect and do a honest self-assessment. Try finding a business course on “asking questions”, impossible! You might watch “Dragon’s Den” or get on a police “interrogation techniques” course or work in a job with kids (hang on, actually having kids is enough…).
Why is it that kids don’t stop asking? Because they want to learn! Constantly! From everyone! Every parent knows it is tough being asked so many questions without losing patience. Often our standard answer is “Stop asking stupid questions! Be quiet!”. By doing that we suppress a natural curiosity and kids ask fewer and fewer questions over time…the result:
Dilemma 3: as an adult we stopped asking, we forgot to be curious and to learn constantly. So, what’s the problem with that? The problem is: “Problems cannot be solved with the same mindset that created them” – Albert Einstein
You cannot create anything new, tackle challenges or solve problems if you don’t know how to ask questions, which you need to do to overcome dilemma 3.
Of course, there is a vast number of resources you can use to learn more about asking questions. I started building up a collection of questions that really worked well for me. In my next posts I will start sharing them. Hopefully, you will find them useful, too.
My experiment for the next week: Keep a count of how many questions I ask each day.
My personal development goal: increase my questions per day ratio. Task 1: establish bottom line.
I will blog and tweet my progress 🙂